A-Z guide on Punjabi wedding rituals and all you need to know about them!

When someone talks about a ‘Punjabi wedding’, the first image which is more likely to pop up in your head is a loud, extravagant wedding ceremony filled with food, fun and loads of dancing! Trust me, there is lots more to a Punjabi shaadi than just that. After reading this blog I am 99.9999999% sure all your myths pertaining to this will be BUSTED!!

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Here is a comprehensive complete guide on Punjabi wedding rituals for all you brides-to-be to help you gear up for an enjoyable ride ahead:

1. Roka and Thaka

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The word ‘Roka’ comes from the word ‘Rokna’, which indirectly implies that now the bride and groom can stop looking out for other wedding prospects and they are fixed in an alliance. The bride’s and groom’s families visit each other’s houses and exchange sweets, dry fruits, savouries et al.

‘Thaka’ is a ceremony as a part of which the couple is made to sit together and showered with gifts or shagun and are considered as officially engaged.

2. Chunni Ceremony

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The members of the groom’s family visit the bride’s household with jewellery , gifts, sweets and a red-coloured outfit like a saree or lehenga-choli, along with a red chunni or chunri.

The chunni is placed over the head of the bride, this ceremony is called chunni chadana.

3. Sagai or Engagement

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In most Punjabi wedding, this ceremony takes place on the same day as the chunni chadana. Some families like it to be a private and intimate affair, while others invite a lot of guests and celebrate it elaborately. The couple exchange rings as part of the ceremony and gifts are given to the bride and groom.

4. Mehendi Ceremony

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Any quintessential Indian bride cannot ignore the mehendi ceremony and it is an unmissable part of wedding functions. The bride gets henna applied on her hands and feet- usually going all out in selecting the best and most customized designs.

Other than the to-be-bride, other girls and women (married and unmarried) also get mehendi applied. This function takes place at the groom’s and bride’s houses, with their own set of guests.

5. Sangeet

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Sometimes, the sangeet ceremony takes place on the same day, post the mehendi. In some cases, it takes on a separate day altogether. Every element of this ceremony is exquisite, extravagant and tooooo much fun. Dancing, singing, games and activities keep the couple and the guests busy!

6. Kangana Bandhna Ceremony

This custom is followed on the morning of the wedding in the majority of Indian families as well as Punjabi weddings. A mouli or sacred thread is tied on the bride’s and groom’s hand in their own homes respectively. It is considered as a lucky charm to ward off evil.

7. Chhodha Chadana

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This ceremony includes a havan and all family members take part in this ritual. The maternal uncle/mama and his wife gift a set of 21 bangles (mostly red and ivory) to the bride.

The bangles are firstly purified in milk and rose petals and later the mama puts on the bangles for his niece. However, these bangles are immediately covered with a white cloth, as the bride is not supposed to see them. There is belief that seeing the bangles, before the wedding begins may incur bad luck. A traditional bride adorns these bangles for a month post her wedding.

8. Kalire Ceremony

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This ceremony is related to the chudha ceremony in Punjabi Shaadi and takes place immediately after the bride wears the bangles. This traditionally gold-coloured accessory is not only to make the bridal ensemble stylish. It actually denotes, well-being, happy conjugal life and fertility. These kaleeras are usually encrusted with betel nuts or dried fruits. In a traditional ceremony, the bride is supposed to shake the kaleeras over the head of an unmarried girl, who she wishes to see married next. If the fruit or betel nut falls over her head, it is believed that it is sure she will be next in line to tie the knot!

9. Haldi Ceremony

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This ceremony may take place one day earlier or on the morning of the wedding. These Punjabi Wedding Ceremonies take place at the bride’s and groom’s home separately, while at times it’s clubbed together.

The women of the house apply a mix of rosewater, turmeric, sandalwood and mustard oil on the visible parts of the bride’s and groom’s body. The new-age haldi ceremonies are full of merriment, dancing and fun!

10. Ghara Ghardoli

After the haldi ceremony. The bride accompanied by her siblings goes to a nearby temple. There, a pitcher of holy water is poured over her and she enters the sanctum sanctorum to seek the Lord’s blessings.

11. Sehrabandi

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Before the wedding ceremonies commence, the bridegroom and his family assemble for a puja. As a part of this, the bridegroom is made to wear a turban and a headgear or sehera, which covers his face.

12. Ghodi Sajana and Ghodi Chadhna

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The traditional baraat includes the groom, who rides his horse (or rather mare) and reaches the wedding venue where the ceremonies take place, with his close family and friends dancing as a part of the baraat.

Before the groom begins the journey on the mare, she is decorated and fed a mixture of chickpeas and jaggery.

13. Agwaani and Milni

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This is the most warm and hospitable ceremony of the wedding and Punjabis are definitely known for these two attributes the most!!

The bride’s family gives a warm welcome to the groom and his baraatis (guests). This may also include an aarti ceremony.

Post this, every family member from the groom’s side meets the corresponding side of the bride’s side. For instance, the groom’s maternal uncle meets the bride’s maternal uncle. There may or not may not be an exchange of gifts and sweets during this meeting!

14. Varmaala

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This is a short and simple ceremony wherein the bride and groom exchange garlands and commence the wedding rituals.

15. Madhuperk/Madhuperka

This is a very old vedic tradition. After the jaimala, the bride and groom sit around the fire. The groom is given a bowl of water. He sprinkles some water on his feet, then on his body and sprinkles some around him.

After this, the groom is given a sherbet or madhuperk made of clarified butter, curd, honey and some essence to drink. He sprinkles some in all directions before sipping on it.

16. Kanyadaan

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This is a rather touching and sentimental wedding ceremony. The father of the bride gives his daughter’s hand (literally) in the hands of her groom and asks him to treat her with love, care, attention and respect!

17. Mangal Phere

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The couple has to circle around the sacred fire seven times. For the first three rounds, the bride leads from the front and for the remaining rounds, the groom leads. Every round is symbolic and with every vow the couple is supposed to take a vow towards their married life, while the priest recites mantras. After these end, the priest declare them married.

18. Sindoor Daan

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After the completion of the pheras, the groom anoints the forehead of the bride and fills her parting with vermillion. This signifies the beginning of married life for the bride and groom. It is symbolic for the bond that is to last for the next seven lifetimes.

20. Joota Chupai

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While the bridegroom is busy with the wedding ceremony, the bride’s sister/sisters hide his shoes and later demand a ransom from him, if he wants them back. All this is done for pure fun and in jest. After a lot of bargaining between the two parties, they finally come to an agreement and the groom pays a certain amount of money for his shoes.

21. Vidaai

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This is heart-wrenching part of the wedding ceremony. The bride has to bid adieu to her family and her ‘maayka’. She throws a handful of rice over her shoulder in her family’s direction, expressing gratitude towards them for raising her and taking care of her. She then sits in her groom’s car and leaves for her new home.

22. Paani Bharna

When the newlywed couple reaches home, the groom’s mother does the bride’s aarti with a pitcher of water. After each circle, the bride’s mother-in-law attempts to take a sip of water, however, the bride prevents her from doing so, until the seventh attempt. The bride then overturns a pot of rice or kalash, with her right foot and enters the house.

23. Mooh Dikhai Ki Rasm

Firstly, the family seeks blessings from the household deities. Consequently, the bride is seated in front of family and friends and her veil is lifted, for everyone to see her face. She is then showered with gifts, cash and jewellery by the elders.

24. Reception Ceremony

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A lavish and extravagant party is thrown in honour of the newlyweds by the groom’s family. This ceremony is filled sumptuous meals, dancing and a lot of meeting and greeting.

25. Pag Phera

A day after the wedding, the newlyweds are invited by the bride’s family for a small gathering or a dinner; this tradition is known in Punjabi families as “Pag Phera.” The bride’s family and close friends are in attendance at this gathering. 

The bride may spend some time at her residence and then return to her in-laws on the same day that the groom arrives to take her back to her house.

26. Varej ceremony

Now you might be wondering what the Varej ceremony means. In a Punjabi wedding, the bride is not allowed to wear white until one year of marriage, as it is considered inauspicious. Thus, on her first anniversary, her mother-in-law gave the bride a white dress with saffron on it so that she could wear it white if she wished to from now on.

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Now all you have to do is get ready and have some fun!

FAQs About A-Z guide on Punjabi wedding rituals and all you need to know about them!

Q. What is Jaggo Night?

Jaggo: In this wedding ritual, the beautifully decorated wedding home serves as the location for family dances and singing. The final hours of the night are spent celebrating Jaggo. They use diva (clay lamps) to adorn copper or brass vessels known as Matke. They then fill the lamps with mustard oil and light them.

Q. What is Chupai Joota Ritual in Punjabi weddings?

Essentially, the Joota Chupai involves robbing the groom of his shoes as soon as he removes them to go to the Mandap for Phere. The bride’s sisters, cousins, and other female relatives do this ritual and then ask for shagun in return for shoes.

What are the rituals of Punjabi wedding?

Indian weddings are huge and approximately five days before the wedding, turmeric paste is applied to the bride and groom, from where the basic marriage rituals begin, where gifts are prepared from the bride’s side for the groom. After this, many rituals are done in marriage. To know all, you can follow the weddingz page.